So, you’re getting married. Congratulations!
Your boyfriend has finally proposed (or maybe you did – you go girl!), friends and family have been told, happy tears have been shed and there’s a sparkling ring on your finger that you can’t help but show off at every opportunity.
So what now?
First things first, you need to choose a date. That’s got to be simple, right? With 365 dates to choose from it can be anything but simple. So where do you start?
Maybe you’ve already got a date is mind; the date you met, the first time you said ‘I love you’ or maybe the anniversary of your engagement. Or maybe you have absolutely no idea!
First, pick a season; Spring, Summer, Autumn or Winter. Do you want to have a winter wedding with snow, Christmas trees and shades of red, green and gold or a spring wedding with pastel colours and flowers newly in bloom? Seasons can affect the price of your wedding, with the summer months usually requiring a bigger budget, so if you’re looking for a budget wedding stay clear of the traditional wedding dates. Christmas, Bank holidays and Valentine’s day also attract premium prices and are usually booked up years in advance – be prepared for a lengthy engagement!
With your season chosen you can start to narrow down your choice of date but there are still factors to be taken into consideration. Does anyone in your immediate family have a birthday / wedding / anniversary on your chosen date? If so, it may be better to stay clear of that date to avoid clashing with anything they have planned. It’s impossible however to try and take into account the schedule of every guest you would like to attend and sadly there may be someone who cannot attend because of you chosen date.
If your friends are teachers, avoid weekday dates during school term time. Got a lot of friends who work within the financial sector? Avoid the end of the tax year to ensure their attendance.
At the end of the day however, your wedding date needs to be important to the two most important people; you and your fiancé. It will be a date that is forever etched into your memory (well hopefully anyway – don’t want any forgotten anniversary arguments!) and it needs to be a date that you are both happy with. Whatever date you pick there may have to be some compromise if the venue you want is fully booked; which are you prepared to compromise on?
I picked Thursday 5th April 2012 as my wedding date. It was the Thursday before the long Easter bank holiday weekend which meant we got almost 18 months to plan everything, received discounts on most of the services we booked and guests got to enjoy a long weekend with us after our special day.
So for those of you who are newly engaged and trying to decide upon your date be prepared to be asked ‘Have you picked your date yet?” about 100 times every day for the first couple of months. But don’t be rushed. Everything else will depend upon the date you decide and as long as you give your guests plenty of notice of your date (send those ‘Save the Date’ cards ASAP) you’ll have everyone who is important to you sharing in your most happy of days.