Getting your groom involved in the planning of your wedding can be a daunting task. While you may be one of the lucky few whose groom is up for the task, there are a lot of men out there who still believe that the wedding planning is always done by the bride and its best not to get involved.
You may also have a groom who appears to have zero interest in helping at all. You are not alone! The key is to stay calm and not force him into doing things he doesn’t want to do. Be subtle and approach the situation with care, making sure that you appeal to his interests to assist you in the planning.
- Use his skills. If he is a great negotiator get him to talk prices with your suppliers. If he is a whizz with numbers, ask him for help with the budgets. If he is good at building, construction or woodwork, why not ask him to create either special bride and groom chairs for the reception or a canopy to stand under for photos?
- Include something special in the wedding for him. Remember those exciting nights out on the town when you first started dating? Have him research bands and DJs, and arrange for the two of you to go out on “dates” to take notes and compare. If he’s an adrenaline junkie, why not organise a super car to bring him to the wedding? Is he into steam trains? Why not get married at an old railway station? There are lots of ideas and it’s great to talk about what you like and incorporate that into your wedding day.
- Talk to your groom! This is vital. Ask him for opinions on things. Show him pictures. Get him input on decisions. However, it is really important to support and encourage his ideas. Don’t ask him to be involved and shoot down every one of his ideas. This will put him off having any involvement. Work together, after all, the wedding is for both of you.
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